It’s the age-old and often asked question of every teenager that has ever breathed. Here are three things I talk about in my book "What do I do when? Answering teenagers toughest questions about Sex-Love-Dating" that will help teenagers have a little clearer picture of where the line actually is.
1.
The
Grandparents Test
First of all, to discover where the line is, take the
grandparents test. Ask yourself one simple question: Would I feel
comfortable doing this in front of my grandma and grandpa? That’s right. Your Grandma and
Grandpa. Would you feel comfortable sucking face in front of your Grandpa?
Would you feel comfortable letting your significant other’s hands roam all over
your body while your granny is right there in front of you knitting a sweater
for her cat?
No?
Well then, that’s where you need to draw the line. Whatever
you would not feel comfortable doing with your grandma and grandpa watching
from the living room couch would be too far.
2.
Check
the Bible
Second, to discover where the line is, check the Bible. In
order to know where your line should be, the second thing you need to do is
look at what Scripture teaches. There are many biblical texts on sexual purity
in the Bible. In fact, here’s a great verse to start with: “Flee from sexual immorality. All other
sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against
his own body” (1 Cor. 6:18).
God instructs us to flee, to run away from, anything that
is sexually immoral. So that gives you a good idea of where your line should
be. Basically, your line should not be anywhere near anything a married couple
would do when they are having sex. I don’t think I need to get too graphic
here; I’m sure you are more than able to draw your own conclusions.
3.
Get
Some Good Advice
The third and final thing you need to do is get some good
advice. The Bible says, “many advisers make victory sure” (Prov. 11:14).
One of the best places you can go for advice on drawing
your line is your parents. I’m sure you just cringed at the thought of having
another sex talk with your folks. I mean, it was awkward enough the first time.
Right?
Well, the truth is that even though it might be awkward,
God has given your parents to you to help you with some of your big decisions.
They’ve already been where you are, and believe it or not they have your best
interest in mind.
So before your date has a chance to try and push you to
your physical limit, give yourself the grandparents test, look at what the
Bible says, and have a heart to heart with your mom and dad. Doing these three
things, will help you know exactly where your line should be.
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